EXCEPT FOR BREATHING and eating, nothing is more fundamental to your life than the conversations you have—with yourself and with others.
My working life is about by addressing the causes and consequences of undervaluing those conversations.
Every day, I endeavor to create meaningful human interaction.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Q: What is it you do?
A: Clients have called me their coach, their work shrink,
their (pick your favorite clergy-type), or their teacher. What do we work on? The fundamental issue that keeps coming up is how do you go about being the best communicator you can be, especially under the pressure of working with others to get something important done. I’m a trusted filter for your ideas, for your fear, and for connecting the way you speak and converse to results that matter.
Q: Why do you work solo?
A: Helping clients build the most productive conversational strategies is intimate work.
You must be willing to face and engage the hard realities of perceptions and impressions that others have of you and your credibility. Approaching those conversations with a practical optimism takes trust and respect. I bring that to every conversation we have and I invite you to do the same.
Q: How long does it take? How much does it cost?
A: Those are the two most often asked questions.
While it varies, the average engagement that I'm in right now has lasted over a year.
Again, on average, you should expect a five figure investment.
Q: If you don't mind getting personal for a moment, what's your favorite movie and favorite food?
A: Godfather II and I can't decide between pasta and sushi.
Q: Can people really change?
A: Short answer is yes.
Although, the rarified air of change is change that is sustained. That’s where efforts to communicate better must outlive the presence of the coach. That’s much harder because it demands faith and trust in oneself and in others. And that is where our work will go.
Q: Can you teach an old dog new tricks?
A: Yep. If the dog wants to learn. Spoiler alert: Humans are not dogs.
Q: What's the difference between those who sustain the change and those who fall back to old ways?
A: First, there are those who say they don’t need to change.
They are the ones who would benefit most, yet remain most resistant. Deep down, I believe they've chosen fear over growth. As my late father-in-law Marv would say, may they live and be well.
Others are looking for quick value from the work, yet, just as quickly, go back to old ways.They were looking for an easy fix, and did it for a reason that wasn't sustainable, like “my boss told me to change.” I will, at least, warn them of the danger ahead.
The most successful clients come to believe that growing starts with patience and by wanting to learn. From that comes genuine questions and new approaches begin to make sense.
Please know that I have heard just about every reason why it's too hard to change things. Yet, it's not a mystery as to why. Shakespeare got it right over 400 years ago when he wrote: "The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves." That’s a tough thing to admit.
It's even tougher to take on the sustained work to make change that matters.
Those who take it on make a big difference in the places and relationships they care about.
The governing question of all of this is: do you truly want to be one of those people?
I invite your interest in sharing your answer with me.
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